Naughty or nice?!?

Shut your mouth, don't talk to me and I'm gonna hit you are very commonly said in our household. These phrases along with many others and alot of No's and talking back are non stop for us. It is a constant battle and a end nowhere in sight! 

We have gotten some comments from many people, and more so lately. I am all about ideas, information, and anything that could possibly help me to be a better parent- but I also don't want to hear how bad is he every time I'm around someone. We understand he is a handful and hard to handle. It is a constant battle in our household. Sometimes we really are so exhausted from trying to discipline our child and all the other things that go on. It is mentally and emotionally draining. People that have head strong children really have a huge insight to this. They understand so much more! They provide valuable information ( as does everyone else) and a sincere "I understand, & it gets easier". I sometimes feel as other just don't get it. I feel like I shouldn't have to explain and defend non stop either. To each there own, right? I really don't want that to be the topic of conversation every time we talk. 

Ryan and I are both very laid back, so that in itself is hard and a struggle for us, because we need to rethink and reprogram ourselves to be consistent and hold our ground. We love to try new things and try to throw out whatever doesn't seem to be working. The issue isn't just him- we fully understand it is us too! We are trying. 

After hearing this over and over it becomes annoying and not so helpful anymore. A few weeks ago, after feeling extremely defeated- my daycare lady approached me and let me know that Bridger was being so naughty. He wasn't listening well and talking back. Imagine my disappointment and overwhelming feeling of defeat. I felt so horrible. My child does have behavior issues and Ryan and I are just wanting to fix it and let everyone else finally see how amazing he truly is. 

After talking to someone that I really feel gets me and who I feel can give some good insight to parenting- I took my sisters advice and seeked a behavior therapist. It didnt take me too long as a lady I work with that is one of my friends,  Mother-n-law- knew of someone. I called immediately and set up an appt for the next week. Also, these people office out of a church and all services are free! 

Ryan and I went alone the first time and gave some back ground on everything that is going on. Details and alot of talking and discussing. She gave us some pointers that day and we had already tightened up on Bridger already- so that appt helped some more! I will elaborate more later on with what pointers she has given us. 

I took Bridger myself tonight and he basically just played and she watched and played with him. Basically assessing him I guess. We go back next week again. He was such a good boy today. Just a few Nos and not listening. At the end he saw her piggy bank and it all fell down hill from there! Haha my sweet baby boy wanted that money. 

I don't know how often we will have to go, but we are more than willing to do what we need to do to get Bridger where he needs to be. Better to do now at 3 and not 13. Although Ryan and I are so laid back we still require our child to behave well and have respect for others. To listen and abide by the rules that we place or rules that are wherever he may be. We understand he is 3 and tantrums are to be expected, but our issue goes beyond that. 

I am not trying to complain, just express this time as what it is so I will remember. It is already so hard as it is dealing with such a defiant child, we embrace support and positive comments and ideas, methods that could help us. We really just want to wash out the negative comments and complaints. We aren't perfect and we never will be, we are trying so hard to do whatever we can. This huge step going to the behavior therapist makes us feel even more so that we are doing what we can and we will always try. 

My baby is such a sweet sweet little man. But everything you do with him, you have to do it differently, there are special techniques, we are learning so we can teach him in the best way possible. Fingers crossed this helps us!!!! He is so so special and so amazing.  

Happy Fathers Day!!!

Happy Fathers Day to the most awesome daddy - my Sweet hubby, Ryan. He is such a good good daddy. Bridger is obsessed with him and loves spending all this time with his daddy. They are always going to be great buddies. They are seriously 2 peas in a pod. They have the same mannerisms and act alike in so many ways. Ryan has always stepped up to the plate and gone over and beyond for Bridger. I couldn't of asked for a better daddy!! They are my heart. I just love these two!

We took the day and went shopping in Port A. Bridger wanted to go find ships, So we went to the jetties, parked and let him sit with us looking for the big ships coming thru the jetties. Luckily, one did come thru! He still is talking about how cool that was. We surprised Aunt Kate with a nice cold fountain Dr Pepper because she had to work, and went to the mall. Nothing over the top, just low key hanging out together. It was a nice day. I know Ryan knows how much his little loves him and I hope he knows how thankful I am that he is my husband and such a spectacular guy! 

Sooo busy.....

I am not sure what happened, but it seems like things have gotten really crazy busy the last few weeks! I am having a hard time find the time to post or even to remember what we have been doing!

So, here is a bunch of randoms of the last couple weeks!



Cabin this past Saturday



Playing at the Cabin while daddy works

Driving Car around the neighborhood!

Helping Daddy air up his boat to go swim

Told me he was going to work to make some money.....Thanks Love!

Ice Cream Date with Mommy and Daddy

So Happy!

My little tan baby

Time for bed!

Sweet boy needs a haircut so badly!

Hanging out after being in the boat all afternoon

Tired boy snuggled up sleeping

Playing ball with his cousins...

So happy - he got his birthday present from Auntie Coe Coe in!!!

ADORable!

Sleepy head...

Water gun fun

Trying to fill his water gun

White baby boy - he even has a tan!

White Sands 2 weekends ago....

Katelynn Graduated!

I can't believe that Katelynn has graduated high school! I seriously feel like she just started her freshman year. Or even better, the little 8 year old she was when Ryan and I started dating. She has always been a fun person to be around. When we lived with them for a short time after their dad passed away, Katelynn and I would have so much fun together. We would do her homework and watch our favorite shows on TV, cook dinner and play games all night. We were pro at Phase 10 and Uno. We would attempt new meals together and try to bake some sweets. We would laugh so much and have good times just hanging out doing nothing. I would take her to McDonalds all the time and I would run by subway for myself. We had rituals like this that we would do non stop. I would pick her up from school Monday thru Friday and Ryan would be busy with boat and motor work with his friends, so often it was just her and I doing our own thing.

Once we moved away to Beaumont - we would come home seriously every other weekend for the first year we were gone. We would hang out with Katelynn and then at night go out with our friends. She was often sad when we would leave for the night as she wanted us to stay and play games with her or bake cookies with her. As she got older, when we would come down - her and I would go shopping every single time. We had the best girl time! She has always been more mature than her age and she is such a laid back person. When we first moved back she would always come and baby sit for us so we could go have a night out with some friends, or a nice dinner to ourselves.

She is such a sweet girl and has a big heart. She is gorgeous inside and out. I am very proud of her and who she has grown to be. I know she will do great in whatever endeavors she chooses. I am excited for her and this next fun amazing step of her life. Congratulations Katelynn!!!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

These are some cuties!!!!